By Christopher bunch
Co-lead editor at FMM, adoptee
700,000 and 135,000 remember those numbers as we go along.
For a moment I want you to picture your daily life, the routine you carry, the passions you have, the interactions you have, the love you share with family and friends. Now I want you to imagine that all of those great things were gone, that the simple ability to live, breathe, experience life and make something for yourself were taken away. Not only were these things taken away but they were taken before you even had a chance to experience them. Sounds awful right? 700,000 people a year will never get to experience the joy, pain, love, passion and self actuality that we strive for. What monstrous being would strip the humanity from 700,000 individuals? Abortion. Each year (according to Stats Canada and the CDC) 700,000 people are killed, legally, each year due to abortion. Now as you read that I can expect that the common reaction is to get out all of the talking points about how abortion falls under women's rights and how dare I suggest that the unborn fetus is being murdered. That's okay to think that, you are entitled to your opinion. As you so fiercely proclaim that abortion is a right that all women should have please remember that 700,000 people never got to tell you their side of the story, that their complexity as humans, their desires and who they were fundamentally never was able to show itself to a world of prosperity and opportunity. Let me ask as well, if abortion was a woman's right but the baby in question was a female, are the right of some women worth more than others? 700,000 voices (many future strong independent women as well) are silenced each year, so for those that can't speak, there are 135,000 of us that can.
Each year in North America around 135,000 children are adopted each year. 135,000 people WILL get to experience the joy, pain, love, passion and self actuality that we strive for. Remember all those things I asked you to think about in your own life? These kids get to experience just that, share the same opportunity you do to be free thinking, passionate, driven and strong individuals. Many of them strong women, fighting for the rights of all women not just women in America who claim murder as a right but instead women all over the world like the one's in the middle east who are stoned to death over a religion. Back to the point, I am one of those people fortunate enough to not be among the 700,000. My mother and father could not afford to take care of me and were not at the right age to do so. Many outside voices pressured her to abortion, that it was the easy way out. They were attempting accessory to murder. Now my talk of murder may come off as dramatic but if someone attempted to end YOUR life through injections, chemicals, tools and surgical methods as well you'd be crying out for a murder charge in no time. The simple truth is that from the moment of conception there is life (https://www.acpeds.org/the-college-speaks/position-statements/life-issues/when-human-life-begins) and that it is nobody's right after conception to end it. By all means use contraception it is your right to do that, but once conception has occurred you do not have domain over the rights of an individual that is not yourself. I will save the arguments against Planned Parenthood and the militant tactics of pro-abortion individuals. I'm here to speak to you personally, as an adoptee, to prove that there's another way.
My life is great, I'm close to my family, my friends, I have a girlfriend of 3 years who I am enjoying life with, I'm entering my third year of university and I have a steady job. All of these things do not exist with abortion. With abortion I am disposed of in hazmat bins and shipped off to who knows where, never to live my life. My adoptive parents, who were unable to conceive, would not experienced the joys and struggles of raising a child. So for the young mother out there deciding if abortion or adoption is right for you, just know that for every child just like the one you are carrying, there is someone out there who would love to take care of your child if you absolutely cannot (Last year 5 million people in the USA alone said they've considered adoption.) There is somebody who wants to take that child to the park, the movies, to sporting events and someone who wants to raise them to be the best they can be. So when deciding between a life with the chances of prosperity, joy, happiness, independence and dreams or between ending up in a blue bin before they can even see the outside world. Please choose life.
To abort is to take away freedom, choices, love, joy and happiness of an individual who doesn't know any better or why they are being slated for death before they've even opened their eyes.
To adopt is to give a new life a better chance at prosperity, of hope and of the pursuit of happiness.
I'm aware that not every pregnancy happens for the same reasons, that each situation is complex and nobody can apply a general catch all to each individual case. I do know that even in the darkest of situations, that light is at the end. Like the person I once met on the bus who told me their mother was raped yet chose adoption and he was born, he's now a school teacher. Like my co-worker whose mom was a drug addict yet chose adoption and he's now in law school. Like me whose parents were poor, scared and young yet chose adoption because those 9 months my Mom endured and didn't cave to the "quick" solution allowed me to have an incredible life.
No matter if you are the pregnant mother, an activist, a celebrity pouring millions into planned parenthood or someone who has never thought of what abortion or adoption truly are. Please consider the implications of not only ending someones life, but also ending the opportunities, the emotions and the experiences that make us human and think...would I take this from anyone else?
The two letter difference from abortion to adoption can change the outcome of 700,000 people each year who never see the light of day.
Lets do our best to make 700,000 abortions into 0 and make 135,000 adoptions into 835,000.
-Christopher Bunch, adoptee, co-lead editor at FMM.
*If you would like to do more to help end the high number of abortions in the US and Canada each year. Call your elected representative and tell them that 700,000 each year deserve life.